For my brother, who sells plants, it is the biggest weekend of the year.
Restaurants are booked up even weeks in advance.
For some reason, I am usually alone on Mother's Day and this includes a long standing tradition of my children not letting me know they are thinking of me on this day.
This family tradition began in the 60's when it was popular to challenge commercialism.
Once in a while, I get remembered and I am, of course, thrilled.
This year, Dick offered to pay for my plane ticket to go see my new grand daughter who will be born soon. I have been so exctied about the birth of this baby girl, there have been moments when I am overwhelmed with joy.
I did not expect the rejection I received when communicating with my daughter-in-law regarding my coming.
And so I am reeling with disappointment to the point of tears. I am wishing I could leave this life now instead of later and come back as someone who is welcome in her own family's lives.
But, I'll get over it very soon. I always do.
All is good.
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| Dick and his great gandaughter, Makenna. |
Theresa Lopata Well, i'm outraged on your behalf. There is no justification for that level of unpleasantness. No one - no one has the right to treat you badly. I'm sorry that you were subjected to that degree of abuse!
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Christine-Barber ♥ Hugs ♥ Children (of all sorts) are our biggest joys and biggest disappointments... so sorry you were hurt, I hope your heart finds peace soon - you are a beautiful and wonderful person, don't let anything or anyone take that simple fact away from you. ♥ I am happy and fortunate enough to have been able to spend Mother's Day with a friend as awesome as you! ♥
ReplyDeleteJudi White And then, Today, I will:
ReplyDeleteConnect with my Children,
Bring Joy into their lives.
Nurture & Encourage what they Love to Do.
And Celebrate them for Being
Exactly Who They Are! ...... Nevertheless.
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Hi Judi,
ReplyDeleteJust read your Porch Chat blog on the topic of Mother’s Day disappointment. You are brave to admit and discuss your genuine feelings of disappointment. Families are messy and hurtful places at times. You had a real high – Dick offering to buy your plane ticket – followed by a crushing blow – daughter-in-law’s rejection.
I am not a mother, so year after year on Mother’s Day, I fend off various feelings of failure, guilt, and loneliness. When I cope well, I am happy for other mothers, or I may tell myself to lighten up and say a simple “thank you” when someone wishes me “Happy Mother’s Day”.
I really appreciated reading your honest feelings, which inspired me to admit how I felt this year: I just wish this particular holiday would go away.
I do think my own experience allows me to have more acceptance and compassion for others whose experiences of motherhood do not fit with the Hallmark Tradition.
I am so sorry to hear of the rejection you are dealing with and hope somehow your situation will improve over time.
Susan
Thank you for your own sharing from the heart space. Crushing blow
ReplyDeleteholds it well. I got over it quickly, however, after a good short
cry. Not any easier being a mother than not being a mother on this
silly holiday. Now, if we were celebrating Gaia or Mother Earth,this
would be a very meaningful day for the whole world. Wouldnt you
agree? Judi
Hey, I feel like I just received a hug from a friend! Susan
ReplyDeleteyou did indeed!
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